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stevenpiziks) wrote2024-06-11 06:39 pm
stevenpiziks) wrote2024-06-11 06:39 pm
Wedding NO
I have a bunch to say about this one:
https://percolately.com/coming-out-during-cousin-wedding/
First, NO! You don't use your cousin's wedding as a coming out moment. Just, no. It's forbidden, taboo, verboten, just like announcing an engagement at a wedding is also forbidden. Just NO.
(Side note: Why would you, Mr. Closeted Gay Man, want to put your boyfriend through this? It's awkward enough meeting your SO's family the first time. Why on earth would you add your own coming out to the mix? NO! Come out before the wedding, or come by yourself.)
Second, never EVER issue +1 invitations. No, no, no. If you think Cousin Vicky will want to bring her boyfriend of three weeks and you don't mind if he's there, he gets an invitation of his own. With his first and last name on it. +1 invitations foolishly hand control of the guest list over to a bunch of other people, and you don't know what'll happen.
Third, grow a spine, Miss Bride. You want to have a small, immediate-family wedding only. Great! It's at your aunt's house, though, so she needs to be invited. Well, all right. And that means all the other aunts and their husbands have to be invi--
Record scratch. No! No, no, NO! If Aunt Thelma will allow the wedding at her house only if she can invite a truckload of other people, you thank her kindly for the offer and look for somewhere else to celebrate.
This woman needs to grow a pair of ovaries. If her family and her fiancé's family are going to be this intrusive and controlling about the wedding, what are they going to be like when the couple starts having children? Jeebus! Use the wedding to set your boundaries, or your household will never be your own.
https://percolately.com/coming-out-during-cousin-wedding/
First, NO! You don't use your cousin's wedding as a coming out moment. Just, no. It's forbidden, taboo, verboten, just like announcing an engagement at a wedding is also forbidden. Just NO.
(Side note: Why would you, Mr. Closeted Gay Man, want to put your boyfriend through this? It's awkward enough meeting your SO's family the first time. Why on earth would you add your own coming out to the mix? NO! Come out before the wedding, or come by yourself.)
Second, never EVER issue +1 invitations. No, no, no. If you think Cousin Vicky will want to bring her boyfriend of three weeks and you don't mind if he's there, he gets an invitation of his own. With his first and last name on it. +1 invitations foolishly hand control of the guest list over to a bunch of other people, and you don't know what'll happen.
Third, grow a spine, Miss Bride. You want to have a small, immediate-family wedding only. Great! It's at your aunt's house, though, so she needs to be invited. Well, all right. And that means all the other aunts and their husbands have to be invi--
Record scratch. No! No, no, NO! If Aunt Thelma will allow the wedding at her house only if she can invite a truckload of other people, you thank her kindly for the offer and look for somewhere else to celebrate.
This woman needs to grow a pair of ovaries. If her family and her fiancé's family are going to be this intrusive and controlling about the wedding, what are they going to be like when the couple starts having children? Jeebus! Use the wedding to set your boundaries, or your household will never be your own.